By Georgina Trías | #NoHablesEnMiNombre is the slogan with which we raise our voices today against a radical feminism that has nothing to do with the feelings of millions of women around the world. A feminism that, screaming, believes that it will be able to silence so many women who still retain common sense and connection with themselves, who value life, motherhood and who are proud to embody feminine attributes.
These women, in general, are not used to raising their voices. They are usually low-key, quiet, and hard-working. Also very expansive, but they don’t need to be noticed. Scientists, engineers, doctors, lawyers, nurses, waitresses, caregivers, mothers … embody endless dedications as varied is the kaleidoscope of reality. They do not identify with the feminist propaganda that floods televisions, movies, networks, politics, and society in general.
To reaffirm ourselves in our femininity and in the challenge of deepening feminine identity in the 21st
century, we do not need this crude feminism that destroys the authentically feminine. We are more concerned with preserving what gives us originality, what distinguishes us from men, who beautifies and dignifies us.
Many women do not want to be equal to the man, simply because we are different. It is precisely the complicity and complementarity between man and woman that makes us both sexes and projects us as people. Our way of being and being in the world is as a man or as a woman, and that neither subtracts nor adds, it simply is. The challenge is to give fullness to that “way of being in the world.”
Facing the woman against the man, as feminism does, is also absurd, harmful for men, women and children. What adds and gives stability to a couple, to a family, to society in general, is generosity, not confrontation and accusation. Without this essential foundation, there is no possibility of building a healthy society, where the family based on the union of man and woman, is the axis in which children grow up in a balanced and healthy framework, with male and female references.
If we talk about women, we must necessarily talk about mothers, which current feminism ignores. Mothers, those who transmit the gift of life, those who enable new generations to succeed us, those who constitute the pillar on which many homes are founded. Mothers who know that motherhood does not come alone, that it is a matter of two, and that they will not allow feminism to steal the illusion and beauty of motherhood, the possibility of a life with a man who loves them and who they can love, and not face him.
Why don’t feminists talk about mothers? Why not recognize women who work at home and who by choice are mothers of several children? Are there fewer women? Normally these women do not feel oppressed, but rather highly dignified, and they have chosen this option over others, even at the cost of the low social recognition they have.
Being a mother, something inherent to women, is increasingly difficult; it becomes something heroic in a society that values you for what you do and not for who you are, when doing and being are required at home. In reality, the most important thing is gestating at home, it is the germ of the future society.
Feminism forgets that women, like every human being, are unique and singular, and cannot speak “on behalf of women” by collectivizing them, under the new mold of gender ideology, which ends up denaturing women, and also women. men.
Chesterton wrote that “the woman defends the idea of sanity, that intellectual home to which the mind must return after every excursion through the extravagance.” Today this is no longer so clear. Because today many, drowned in the tide of feminism, spend their lives trying to discover their identity in a society that makes it more difficult every day, and they are no longer a reference even for their own.
Gender ideology is one more example of the excursion into extravagance, without solid anthropological foundation, an unscientific theory, which is going to leave damaged a few generations who, when they want to “go home” or will not find their way back, and if they arrive, hopefully, it will be with very deep wounds.
While the woman builds, feminism destroys, it destroys the woman herself because she steals her identity. Having previously victimized her, she makes him believe that by “empowering her”, she will become a “super woman” of a Nietszchean cut and without transcendence. That is to say, she is deceiving her and launching into a relentless battle, where she inexorably she will end up reinforcing precisely what she tries to avoid: more victimhood and greater loneliness.
The underlying issue is the trap that so many women have fallen into believing that they will be able to decide what they are, when being male or female is given to us. It is the first lesson in natural anthropology, which can be learned experientially in the neonatal unit of any hospital: is it a boy or a girl
Feminism shuns everything that has to do with the family, with parents, and their children. And the feminist woman deliberately forgets the benefits that man has, without which he will never be able to develop his full identity. As vice versa, neither will man succeed. Both men and women require, complement and aspire to reciprocal integration. It is the logic of unity based on love.
Love is the universal law that allows us to achieve all our aspirations. Those who truly love usually keep the compass that allows them not to be fooled by empty and sectarian ideologies, keeping in touch with the reality that guides them in life. This is the challenge for our century.
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Georgina Trías is a deputy for the Vox party in the Spanish Congress, mother of a large family and entrepreneur; she has a degree in Hispanic Philology and an official master’s degree in Humanities.
This is one of the texts that we publish in the dossier ‘The 8M under a new look‘, which you can download here. At the moment, only available in Spanish.